Advice from your friendly neighborhood thick girl

Not too long ago, while we were thinking about an upcoming play at my church, they asked me who I could be from the old testament. Immediately I said Eve, to which one of the older teenagers responded with hopes that I would be wearing something more than one fig leaf for the sake of our church congregation. 

Now I don't know how you feel when people point out your insecurities, but when someone makes it seem like the church would crumble and people would desert the Christian faith, at the sight of my naked body, it's not a real confidence booster.

Now I'm not saying that we should flaunt our nude figures in public, nor am I saying that you should tiptoe around your local big girls' feelings, but you also don't have to point out their/our flaws. 

It's for the same reason I don't point out the squeakiness in the voice of the guy at my work, who likes to serenade girls. Or also why we as women do not tell our husbands/boyfriends that we've noticed their come-over isn't quite doing the job, but instead enunciate how sexy we think a bald head is or mention how we just happened to get a free sample of Rogaine Extra Strength at the local grocery store. 

Does this also mean that when they bring up the subject you should deny the fact that your plus size friend could tone their body a little more, or that they could be a bit more generous with the lotion around their love handles? No! With friends and family, there is always the option to be honest and possibly even help, whether it's offering to go to the gym with them or simply giving them body cream as their next "thinking of you" gift. 

There is always a way to help the ones you care about without kicking them where it hurts. We ought to show our love, support, and understanding to our friends the same way we would want them to look out for us. 

Going along these same lines, make sure your points are in line, before trying to give advice in any particular area. Ladies this means, don't talk about someones' tracks showing when your weave is all messed up. Don't critique someone else on their make-up when yours is stuck in the '80s. Plus as a general rule, do not put down someone for something they cannot change. Because while we could always lose a little weight or take a little more time on our hair, there is nothing us poor girls can do about our big foreheads, height, freckles, or anything else that came with the DNA. 

So please, stay classy and always remember Confidence is Key, if we have enough, it will start to rub off on those around us.